Demure describes someone who is reserved, modest, or shy. It often refers to a person’s behavior or appearance. In fashion, the term might be used to describe a particular style that is elegant and understated.
brat describes someone who is bold, unconventional, and does and says what they want, when and where they want.
So is self-care demure or brat? Well, I would argue, it’s both! Taking the time to figure out what you want and need is the most important thing you can do for yourself. Some days we may need to lean into our more “demure, very mindful” side of ourselves. Other days, channeling our inner brat is what is needed to get our needs met.
I think what’s most important is that you have the power to choose who you are and what you need. And our needs can change day to day, that’s called being human. Just don’t forget the most important part of all of this: stop for 5 minutes, consider how your body feels, consider your thoughts, and then decide what you need right now. If you need help with this task (which is much easier said than done btw), maybe meeting with a therapist is the most brat/demure thing you could do for yourself right now:)
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